Something different
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
-Robert Frost
Nurture life using { LifeMantras }
Sometimes, we are so attached to our way of life that we turn down opportunities simply because we don’t want to alter our life. Get an University degree, get married, have children and make sure that children get a degree too(There is nothing wrong with it it 
one should have all fun having degree,wife and children )….but none from us ask ourselves: Should I do something extraordinary? Revolutionary ? something different?
Also Journey to No Where will lead you no where
Review your life and decide on which path you are….I still have to do the same exercise.
{Based on Paulo Coelho’s writings, Image Source: peacecorpsonline.org }
Themocracy
I’ve been thinking the same thing! Humans fear one thing, “Change” . They are so much ok with a fixed pattern of life, that they are scared of changing it… fearing failure!
and I love that poem!
Very true Nithya, Fearing Change and fearing failure make common man live in fixed comfort zone.
I wrote about Comfort Zones and fixed life couple of months back…pasted here for reference..
In my understandings, We live in comfort areas for different reasons,
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Ignorance of better options
If this is the case then you are in happy comfort zone and its obvious that you don’t want to come out of anything because you don’t know what you are missing by ignorance( Something like: living like Neo in Matrix, hope you understand what I am saying
).There is nothing wrong in happy and satisfied life but it is sad if you have some hidden potential but your ignorance wall comes between present world and your better future( and World’s better future).
Solution or rather extra option for this zone residents is very simple: Listen to world around you very carefully!!!!
Listen to your well wishers, your parents, your friends.Nominate someone as your GURU( Krishna to Arjun in Gita :”Acquire the transcendental knowledge from a Self-realized master by humble reverence, by sincere inquiry, and by service. The wise ones who have realized the Truth will impart the Knowledge to you. (Bhagavad G?t?, c4 s34)”), who can guide you constantly and make you realize about your hidden potential and better options in life.(Caution: I am not talking about any Guruji or maharaj , thats different story and I do not want to comment on that.It depends on individual’s choice. Someone who can really guide you in right direction. Your father/mother/friend can be your GURU or may be someone real guru
. )
“Krishna with Arjun in battlefield” is a best example I have to represent how can you break ignorance barriers with the help of proper guidance.
My personal belief is, if you are satisfied with what you have for longer time then there is something wrong..go and talk to your well wishers.
You must be aware of standstill water conditions.
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Not having guts to experiment new options or not having guts to go against the wind
Now, This is killer of our mind.We fight with ourself everyday and every moment.This happens when our thinking is different then our main stream thoguhts.
We are afraid of taking risks..
we are afraid of unknown difficulties…
We are afraid of what people think and comment…
We are afraid of failure….
We are afraid of outcomes….
In nutshell, We have better options for life attached with different fear factors.
Tough….but not impossible to overcome fear.
Jinan in his comment explained very well with his life experience
“I remind my childhood time, when I was having fear about jump in to water from height, but once I jumped with dare having full of fear in my mind. Then I found that wasn’t that tough. I tried to jump 2nd time…and this time I was having less fear. You know…after some practice I found that, this is fun there is nothing in it to worry about. In the same way…May be start of changing curve will feel some fears in heart. But the fact is the person who dares will know the fun of changing curves.”
Deepan’s comment for this zone is:
“You just need a big heart full of courage to walk through this world. Even if you dont have any other facilities, talents, but if you got guts, you will be through.”
I would say, Jump in the air!
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Procrastination
When our brain is hesitant to do something new, we need to train it by small exercises.Try with some small change in daily routine.
For example: You are sales representative for one Auto parts company and you realized that “Learning French is essential for you to deal with your Canadian customers”
Now, you know what you need to do but your procrastinative attitude doesn’t allow you to do so and you are not able to improve your sales target(You are happy in moderate sales comfort zone)
– Try with small steps: 5 minutes per day French or 5 new French words, isn’t that simple to start?
– Do small steps for longer period( till you think that this is too easy to do every day, lets put some more time)
– Log your daily routine(Hours in work, hours in daily tasks, hours in new life experiments and last but most important WASTED HOURS-which you could have used in life experiments) and analyze it every night for better tomorrow.
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Self limitations
Personally, I do not see anything as self limitation. we can overcome any limitation under the sun and become expert in it.Only thing is, it takes time to overcome your limitation.
Start working on your tangible limitations and make them your strengths.
Have patience while you are working on your limitations!
so you guys…are discussing something really amazing..i dont have time otherwise i would like to inerfere and describe as some of the points seems to be going in wrong way..my time is used up in reading this…but wl reply soon..
i liked psychology…i appreciate your discussion..
Nice views NJ!! I would like to add more on this topic. Actually, this pro-”comfort zone” attitude is widespread in our 70s generation and our generation has inherited it because of the way we are brought up by them. Moreover, there is nothing wrong in living like cocoon if you enjoy being it. Ultimately, it’s your pleasure that drives you and your ideas.
The problem is not that we are not adept to change but real problem is that we have forgotten the essence of word called “reason”.
My mantra is to be reasonable before making any earnest attempt towards anything.