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By jainnidhi12, May 9, 2008 4:37 am

Every one of us likes to be praised, to be listened to, to be spoken to with respect, experiencing success at work, having trustworthy friends and many such things in life. But have we ever thought that how can we get all this?
Most of us feel that we are being harshly criticized, ignored or teased, and always cry for our failures. This all happens because we think that our failed experiences are the failures of our own self. We never learn to respect our self so the people around also disrespect us. For most of us, feelings and thoughts about our self fluctuate based on our daily experiences like we feel bad when we get low grades in exams, we feel hurt when friends mistreat us, the ups and downs in professional or personal surroundings. This all collectively impact our wellbeing.

The core problem why this happens with us is that we don’t love, trust and believe in our self. Our self-esteem should be strong enough to give us the strength to fight against not only these normal ups and downs that comes from the situational changes but should prepare us to tackle most complex problems of our lives. God has made every human being special and so we should respect his creativity. Every one of us should possess the specific feelings of self esteem, self confidence and self-competence which can lead us to the path of happiness and success. For people with good basic self-esteem, the normal ups and downs may lead to temporary fluctuations in their lives and that too to a limited extent but for people with poor basic self-esteem, these ups and downs make all the difference in the world. All of us should listen to our inner voice and follow it because it gives us the strength to fight against all odds. This would help us live a happy and satisfied life. We can never feel lonely if we start liking our self because if we think, we have so much to interact and discover about our own self. We should insist on knowing us more, loving us more, give more meaning to our lives and try and find the reason for our existence in this lovely world so that we can do justice to our birth and to the creator. We should believe in ours selves and learn to like ours selves.

~ Nidhi Jain